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Tuesday, March 25, 2008

Empathy versus systemizing

More male/female brain test stuff! This time stolen from Whiteg's jaiku. Hmm, I'm a bit autistic eh? My results:

Systemizing quotient - Your score: 42

  • 0 - 19 = low

  • 20 - 39 = average (most women score about 24 and most men score about 30)

  • 40 - 50 = above average (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score in this range)

  • 51 - 80 is very high (three times as many people with Asperger Syndrome score in this range, compared to typical men, and almost no women score in this range)

  • 80 is maximum

Empathy quotient - Your score: 47

  • 0 - 32 = low (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score about 20)

  • 33 - 52 = average (most women score about 47 and most men score about 42)

  • 53 - 63 is above average

  • 64 - 80 is very high

  • 80 is maximum

Autism Spectrum quotient - Your score: 24

  • 0 - 10 = low

  • 11 - 22 = average (most women score about 15 and most men score about 17)

  • 23 - 31 = above average

  • 32 - 50 is very high (most people with Asperger Syndrome or high-functioning autism score about 35)

  • 50 is maximum

Reading the mind in the eyes - Your score: 25

  • A typical score is in the range 22-30. If you scored over 30, you are very accurate at decoding a person's facial expressions around their eyes. A score under 22 indicates you find this quite difficult.

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Saturday, December 08, 2007

生命靈數

Been catching up on my friend's blogs. Saw this on Jessie's blog:

你的心靈力量有多偉大?快來探索你的「生命靈數」!

姓名: 陳怡因
靈數: 50

這組數字顯示

  你是個感覺敏銳,心思非常細膩的人,很能夠體會別人的感覺,並且會常常想到別人的事情,比如重視對方,以及對方的人際關係,重視那些自己喜歡的人,身邊周圍的人、自己的家人等,因此你的生活圈會小一點,與圈外人士的接觸也會少一些。提醒你思惟太細膩,跟人相處的方式可能會較為迂迴曲折,人際關係因此會有不順利的現象喔!
  在年輕時,往往會遭遇到很多辛苦的階段,但是最後都能在各自的範圍內成為領導者,即使不具有國王般的領導地位,也能在某些範籌內擁有支配集團的能力,而且即使處在人生較弱的運勢中,也會保有強烈的意志力支撐,成為領袖人物,保存自己的實力。
  感情上的伴侶可能會遇上很多個以後,才會塵埃落定,問題出在你喜歡無微不至的照顧對方,卻也希望對方能完完全全聽你的話,因此造成彼此的壓力都太大,一旦戀情出現問題就會很快分手,然後又開始找尋下一個心新歡,不停的重複循環;但如果二人在聚少離多的狀況下,減少磨擦,反而有可能讓戀情維持得很久很久。
  你的生命目標是展現個人的才華,並且享受人生的各種變化,但是你最好的生活方式是跟別人一起合作,比如是事業需要伙伴,或是人生需要伴侶,最好是夫妻倆一起合作創業,合作經營。
  由於你的生命目標覺得人既然來到世間,就是要到處旅遊,不斷的變化成長,吸收知識,常常出差增廣見聞,你就是有這種想法的人。建議你有伴侶的支持,更能享受人生的快樂喔!
  你的個性特徵是有獨到的想法及意見,思考靈敏,立場堅定而不易被動搖,喜歡批判性及說理性的表達方式,常有驚人之語和特殊見解,但有時候不理會他人的想法,會顯得太獨斷了!
  你的優點是人緣好、口才佳,富快樂開朗的一面,因此很適合出來跟人交流,建議你選擇一個方向,努力去達成與人的良好互動吧!。
  你的缺點是太隨性,有時會無法控制自己,一下子忽然興高彩烈,想到什麼就衝動去做,到處發揮精力,缺乏明確的目標,可能浪費太多精力了。
  你的天賦潛能是在變動中求生存,如果歸納出一些趨勢,則偏向比較動態的,因此你可以選擇的行業很多,需要發揮口才的、隨性一點的自由業最適合,比如公關,外交,或業務,推銷這類的人,所有需要靠人脈或朋友的工作都很好,而如果是在固定的行業裡,則最好做些變動的職務,或必須常常出差往外跑的,都可以發揮你出你的潛力。

流年運勢

2007:
  開始有立志和獨立的想法,表示你即將發揮出你的領導力和創造力,講話開始有人聽,對事情的操控力也比較好,很快大家就會以你為中心了,提醒你注意自己的態度,如果太囂張會讓人感覺你自私、蠻橫又獨斷喔!
  代表新的循環,新的開始,無論是新的方向,或是新的計劃都可以開始進行,因此適合個人或公司建立新目標與新的規劃執行,只要是新方案的開端,都會有一番新氣象。

2008:
  因為處在和諧穩定的狀態下,因此對於建立家庭、結婚這方面的事很有幫助,而和戀人間的感情關係也是穩如泰山喔!提醒你在這段期間有貴人將現身,因此要多多結識新的人、事、物,擴大你的生活圈,四處廣結善緣。
  這個階段與人配合的機會將增加許多,還會有貴人出現,因此需多注意周遭環境的變化,新的機會和契機都可能暗藏其中,需要用心去發掘。與人合作時,記得凡事多方聽取別人的意見,多與人研究分析,才能做出最好的判斷和決策。

2009:
  在感情方面,如果之前已經有好的開端,現階段會有幫助,但是對於不明感情的穩定,並沒有特別的助益。
  這是一個發展性很強的階段,變動性比較大,各種管道也比較暢通,接觸的層面也會更廣泛,因此手邊所進行的事物有產生變化的可能性,如果機緣成熟時,也是發揮自己才能的時候了。

2010:
  由於這個階段代表穩定,沒有變化,因此對於剛起步的事業沒有明顯的助益,但如果是感情本來就有問題的人,到這時候問題會明顯減少,對於感情穩定很有幫助。建議你對於既定的規則不要隨性的更改,而過去所建立的優良典範也要繼續的維持喔!
  如果你一直以來都是個變動性很大的人,在這個階段會較穩定,你的財富也是在穩定中成長。但是如果你想要發展、變更或擴大經營、自行創業等,現階段對你並沒有很大的幫助,建議你一動不如一靜。

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Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Sex ID - find out how your mind works

Saw this BBC link posted by a friend in Facebook. I think it should be called Gender ID instead, but anyway this quiz lets you find out if your brain works more like a man's or woman's.

It's quite interesting! I'd suggest you take the quiz first before looking at my results... and then we can compare :)

My overall performance

gender_id_brain_score.jpg

(Ok, so I'm not as "manly" as I thought. But I'm quite proud of some of the scores in a few of the parts that follows.)

Part 1

Angles

This task tested your ability to make spatial judgments.
You correctly matched 20 line(s) out of 20.

Average score for men: 15.1 out of 20
Average score for women: 13.3 out of 20

If you scored 18 - 20: You have more of a male brain. On average, men outperform women in this task and those with more mathematical knowledge tend to score quite high as well. In past studies, 60 per cent of the people in this range were men.

Males may generally score higher because they tend to pay more attention to space or the geometry of the world around them. Differences such as this may reflect differences in the brain.

Spot the difference

This task tested your ability to recall objects' positions.
You correctly identified 11 out of 14.
You incorrectly identified 0 objects.

Your score: 79%
Average score for men: 39%
Average score for women: 46%

If you scored between 67 - 100%: Those with a female-type brain generally score in this range. Your ability to remember where objects are may serve as an advantage to you when you're trying to find your way around places. You're more capable of recalling landmarks to get from one place to another.

Part 2

Hands

You said your left thumb is on top. This suggests the right side of your brain is dominant.

The left side of your brain is said to be more adept at language, logic and linear thinking.

The right side of your brain is said to control your visual, spatial and intuitive processes.

Part 3

Emotions and Systems

This task looked at whether you prefer to empathise or systemise.

Empathising

Your empathy score is: 9 out of 20
Average score for men: 7.9 out of 20
Average score for women: 10.6 out of 20

Systemising

Your systemising score is: 11 out of 20
Average score for men: 12.5 out of 20
Average score for women: 8.0 out of 20

Systemisers prefer to investigate how systems work. A system can be a road map, flat pack furniture, or a mathematical equation - anything that follows a set of rules. A score of 15 and above suggests you're good at analysing or building systems. Men in general are better at systemising.

Eyes

This task tested your ability to judge people's emotions.
Your score: 7 out of 10

Average score for men: 6.6 out of 10
Average score for women: 6.6 out of 10

If you scored 7 - 10: Your result suggests you are a good empathiser, sensitive to other people's emotions. Women generally fall into this category.

Men often think a person's eyes are sending signals of desire when that's not the case at all.

Part 4

Fingers

Your digit ratio is:
Right Hand: 1.03
Left Hand: 1.02

Average ratio for men: 0.982
Average ratio for women: 0.991

Some scientists believe your index to ring finger length ratio can reveal a lot about your development in your mother's womb.

The amount of testosterone we are exposed to in the womb is thought to influence the growth of our ring fingers. This theory may explain why men's ring fingers are often longer than their index fingers. The average male ratio is .96.

On average, women's index and ring fingers are more or less of equal length, with a ratio of around 1.00.

Studies have found that men and women with lots of brothers generally have more masculine finger ratios.

Part 5

Faces

Your ratings suggest you prefer more masculine faces.

The images in this test were digitally altered to reflect differences in masculinity. So the faces were manipulated to be more or less masculine.

Scientists believe that when we're deciding if someone is attractive, this is one of the factors we look for.

Part 6

3D shapes

This was probably one of the harder tasks. It tested your ability to mentally rotate an object in your head.
Your score: 12 out of 12

Average score for men: 8.2 out of 12
Average score for women: 7.1 out of 12

If you scored 10 - 12: Are you an engineer or do you have a science background? People with these skills tend to score in this range. Past studies have concluded that people in this range have a more male brain.

Nearly a third of men who took this test got full marks, whereas less than 10 per cent of women managed the same.

Words

This task looked at your verbal fluency.
Your score: you associated 12 word(s) with grey and you named 7 word(s) that mean happy. We are assuming that all the words you entered are correct.

Average score for men: 11.4 words total
Average score for women: 12.4 words total

If you produced 6 - 10 words: Most people in this range have a female-type brain.

Did you know that, on average, women use 15,000 words a day while men use 7,000?

Ultimatum

This task asked you how you would divide money.

If you had to split £50 with someone, you said you would demand £35

So far on the Sex ID test, men have demanded 51.6% (£25.80) of the pot and women have demanded 51.0% (£25.50), on average.

Demanding less than 60% of the pot (ie £30) is more typically female. Demanding more than 65% of the pot (ie £32.50) is more typically male.

Scientists believe that people with lower testosterone levels tend to take fewer risks so they are probably more willing to keep less for themselves. Those with higher testosterone levels tend to drive a harder bargain and are less compromising.

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Tuesday, September 11, 2007

What kind of guy will I fall for? (and more)

Silly (but fun) quiz time! Results are pretty much what I expected, although it's still funny to get confirmation that I'm a klutz who finds geeks attractive!

What Kind of Guy Will You Fall For?

You would fall for the geek. If you're looking for love, consider spending a little more time studying up in the library. To you, there's nothing more attractive than intelligence, shyness, and kindness; your future love may have four eyes and zero social skills, but he'll make up for it in brains and heart.


Which Desperate Housewives Character Are You?

You are Susan. You are a klutz and verifiably awkward in social situations, but you are sweet, easy-going, and not afraid to get what you want in creative ways.


Which Sex and the City Character Are You?

You are Carrie. You know what you want out of a relationship and you're not afraid to keep moving until you get it. Wit and charm are your biggest turn-ons, and you like guys who appreciate you for your mind as much as your body. You have fun playing the dating game, but secretly you just can't wait to find the guy who sweeps you off your feet and carries you into the sunset.


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Monday, April 02, 2007

What's Your Beer Personality?

You Are Heineken
You appreciate a good beer, but you're not a snob about it.
You like your beer mild and easy to drink, so you can concentrate on being drunk.
Overall, you're a friendly drunk who's likely to buy a whole round for your friends... many times.
Sometimes you can be a bit boring when you drink. You may be prone to go on about topics no one cares about.
What's Your Beer Personality?

Haha, I don't think I need to drink to be boring and go on and on about topics that no one else cares about! =P

Bad bad BAD sore throat... I don't know if it's from allergies, really getting sick, or just having too much fun this weekend. Probably a combination. Well, I guess it's better than having a headache...

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Tuesday, February 06, 2007

An update (finally?)

Anyone missed me? (Don't answer that if you didn't.... haha)

Ok, I've been spending too much time over at Vox and consequently neglected this site. But Vox is really convenient and fun. I can take pictures/videos and blog about them, all from my cell phone. Since signing up, I think I averaged one post a day. Do give it a try! The community aspects of it is great too. (No, I'm not getting any monetary or material benefits from promoting Vox :))

For my INFP readers lurking around here, I've started an INFP group at Vox, so please feel free to check it out / join and lurk there as well ;) Quite a few Voxers have joined, more than those joining the Evanescence group I've created. I was pleasantly surprised, as I thought it'll be the other way around...

In other news, Finnish classes are starting again next month. I've already forgotten most of what I've learnt previously. You'll think that working in a Finnish company will give me more chances of practicing this language, but I'm probably improving on my Chinese more than anything else. I've also bought a Living Language Italian Daily Phrases & Culture 2007 Day-to-Day Calendar (originally $12, paid $1... if you can wait, buy your yearly calendars in February!). Bruce and I are planning a two-week trip to Italy next year. It's one of those places both of us have been longing to visit. Piacere! Conoscete Italiano? Carol e disillusa. (Doesn't make much sense, I know... just trying to practice making use of the 3 phrases I've learnt so far!)

And lastly for a weather update. These two days we have highs in the 70s. Is it Spring already? Just last week we were freezing our asses off, although we did get to see some snow falling. Then again this is Texas, where pretty much anything goes for the weather. There have been times in the past where we get to experience 3 seasons over a 24-hour period.

Two weeks ago, it was kinda cold but not quite down to freezing. Which was a good thing because our gas got cut off and we had no heat in the house. What happened? Well, the previous month, when I was paying bills, I accidentally paid the electric company twice. When the next gas bill came and I saw that they have not received the previous payment, I blamed my bank (they have goofed up before and made me late on TWO credit card bills and another utility bill. Their "new" bill-pay system is terrible. arggh.) So I didn't think much about it at first. I submitted my payment regularly (not expedited), but then I guess the gas company got impatient and just cut us off. There was a letter of warning (which I didn't read in detail because it looked like the bill), but no phone calls or anything else. Do they even care about their customers? It's the middle of winter and they just cut someone's gas off like that without so much as a courtesy phone call? Before this, we were never late, and always paid in full. Even credit card companies call and try to work out payment plans with you if for some reason you can't pay your bills. Bruce said of course the gas company didn't care, they are a monopoly and can pretty much do whatever they want.

Gotta get back to work. See you over at Vox later, perhaps?

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Sunday, December 31, 2006

My Personal DNA

According to the personality assessment by Personal DNA, I'm a:

Considerate Creator
Considerate Creator

They don't give a list of the possible combinations, but after some googling, I found the following (not exhaustive) -- for "how you relate to others", you can be {Advocating, Animated, Attentive, Benevolent, Cautious, Concerned, Considerate, Dynamic, Encouraging, Faithful, Free-wheeling, Generous, Genuine, Independent, Reserved, Respectful}; and for "about you", you might be a/an {Agency, Analyst, Architect, Artist, Builder, Creator, Designer, Director, Dreamer, Experiencer, Idealist, Inventor, Leader, Realist, Thinker, Visionary}.

I think my results are for the most part accurate, although there are some contradicting areas. Oh well, it's just for fun. I still think MBTI is one of the better type assesments...

Anyway, here are some of the details from my report. If you take the test, please let me know, and maybe we can psych each other!!

You are a Creator

  • Your imagination, confidence, willingness to explore, and appreciation of beauty make you a CREATOR.
  • You are independent, and you enjoy your self-sufficiency.
  • Defying convention, you are very innovative, and you have a vivid imagination.
  • The look of things is important to you, and you have a keen eye for aesthetic beauty in multiple arenas.
  • You have a strong interest in what is new and exciting--and that includes forging ahead with new ideas, not simply discovering what is already out there.
  • Your eagerness to seek new and varied experiences leads you into many different situations.
  • You're not set on one way of doing things, and you are creative when it comes to finding novel solutions to complex problems.
  • You trust yourself to be innovative and resourceful.
  • Your confidence allows you to take your general awareness and channel it into creativity.
  • You're not one to force your positions on a group, and you tend to be fair in evaluating different options.
  • You're not afraid to let your emotions guide you, and you're generally considerate of others' feelings as well.

You are Considerate

  • You trust others, care about them, and are slow to judge them, making you CONSIDERATE.
  • You value your close relationships very much, and are more likely to spend time in small, tightly-knit groups of friends than in large crowds.
  • You enjoy exploring the world through observation, quietly watching others.
  • Relating to others so well, and understanding their emotions, leads you to trust people in general, even though you're somewhat shy and reserved at times.
  • Your belief that people are generally well-intentioned contributes to your sympathy regarding their problems.
  • Although you may not vocalize it often, you have an awareness of how society affects individuals, and you understand complex causes of people's behavior.
  • You like to look at all sides of a situation before making a judgment, particularly when that situation involves important things in other people's lives.
  • Your close friends know you as a good listener.
  • You're not one to force your positions on a group, and you tend to be fair in evaluating different options.
  • You're not afraid to let your emotions guide you, and you're generally considerate of others' feelings as well.
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Friday, November 10, 2006

Looking back on 1999

Found this "quiz" thingy I did for Rhetoric class (of all things) back in 1999. Interesting to read my own responses and uncover my previous thoughts. I don't think I've changed much... (fundamentally. Superficially, yes, like growing horizontally.) Did you know me back then? How do you think I've changed? (No need to remind me of the extra 20 pounds.)


My full name is: Carol Cybette Nicole I-Yin Yiyin Chen

Most people call me: Carol

Other names people have called me: Yin, Eagle/Hawk, Math Guru

I wish people would call me: the most beautiful geekette in the world

I hate it when people call me: early in the morning (when I'm still sleeping)

My birthplace and birthday are: some hospital in Taiwan on an August day around 2:50a.m.

My colors are: blue, black and silver

My distinguishing characteristics consist of: 2 sexy moles (one above my lip and one on my neck), and a big nose

My education consists of: getting A's for subjects I enjoy and C's for everything else

In 6th grade I: was suffocating in an all girls school, that i almost wished i was a guy

In high school I: chose to study computer science to get closer to more guys, but ended up falling in love with computers instead

The names of every pet I've ever had are: black fox (dog's name in chinese), and i forgot the names of the 2 birds i had for a short while

I tend to overuse: my generosity, sympathy, emotions and credit cards

If I could switch places with anyone on earth for a day, it would be: nobody because: i love being me

Some CD's I cannot live without are: too many to list...

Some books I cannot live without are: my C++ books

To completely relax, I: listen to music and sleep face down

Some of my strange habits include: searching for myself on the web

My favorite beverages are: coke (the original, not diet or caffeine-free), coffee and long island ice tea

I am addicted to: computers and the internet

My real job is: none at the moment

My dream job is: one that pays big bucks and brings me to the most exotic places around the world

I'm deathly afraid of: not existing after death

Some things that get me all wiggly are: insects and creepy-crawlies

My real heros are: my grandparents

My fictional heros are: Hobbes in "Calvin and Hobbes"

My anti-heros are: Bill Gates and micro$oft

Something that I want to do in my life but haven't done yet is: bungee jump

My family consists of: me, my future husband, and a whole network of computers (hopefully)

Something that I lost, that I really wish I hadn't lost is: my innocence

If my house was on fire and I could only save one thing, it would be: (after saving human beings i assume) the backup of my harddisk on a cdrom, which will hopefully contain scans of photos and other memories

The way I am most afraid to die is: alone

My current theme song is: Always by Bon Jovi

One moment that changed my life was: running away from home

Something I've done since I was a kid is: look up to the skies above at night, wondering about the stars and galaxies that lies beyond

Something I want the world to know is: nobody is perfect, learn to love yourselves and others more

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Wednesday, April 05, 2006

Odds and Ends

** The most popular entry in my blog is INFP = ADD = Depression? and INFPs around the world seem to find their way here. Welcome, I say. And thanks to Eli we now have our very own Yahoo group which has a chat feature so we can set up chat sessions. Please join if you're interested. So much for my plan of setting up a PHP based chat on my site (oh well, goodness knows when I'll get around to doing that anyway!).

** This is more for my own benefit than anyone else's... thanks to a great template from Tweezerman, I now have an RSS Feed for Comments. You're welcome to subscribe to it as well.

** On the subject of RSS Feeds, I was (ok, still am) using Newsgator online reader for my subscriptions. Thought it was pretty cool... until I tried the Google Reader. It has all the features I need, looks great (read: clean and simple) and loads fast. Plus you can star entries (just as you would in Gmail) and have those in a special Feed for Starred items too!

** Uploaded some photos from Puerto Vallarta trip to my msn space

** Spring forward. As I went around the house on Sunday setting the clocks for Daylight saving time, I mentally made a mini-resolution to start going to bed earlier and get up earlier. Haha, right, like that'll happen. Tried countless times before, never succeeded (past a few days). I'm a night owl through and through. Just look at the time most of my entries are written. And according to a Monster article, this characteristic is genetically predetermined, and they offer some work strategies for us night owls (ok, also for those of you who are early birds).

** Still on the topic of daylight savings, did you know that we'll have an extra month of DST starting next year? The Energy Policy Act of 2005 will change the start and end dates of DST from 2007 onwards. Mar-Nov instead of Apr-Oct. The dept of energy will study if this is really gonna save significant amounts of energy before deciding whether to make the change permanent.

** I thought this was going to be a quick and short entry. I thought wrong. Why can't I be this "eloquent" in real life? Oh well, I'm starting to learn a new language that I can be ineloquent in: Quenya (high-elven). Hmm, that'll be interesting.... but no, it's Finnish. Some relation, but not quite Elven. Maybe I can start writing my blog in Finnish! Heh.... then I'll lose the few readers that I have (if I have?). No matter, I'm used to talking to myself anyways...

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Wednesday, March 01, 2006

Office Politics

Uugh, I hate politics of any kind... and worst is office politics right in my own group at work, which I have to face everyday. I won't go into the details (in case I unknowingly violate some company policy and get into legal trouble)... but, forgive me for being too idealistic, why can't everyone get along? Or rather, why can't everyone at least *TRY* to get along? I believe if people just try, just put in a little bit of effort, things can be much better. I have so much respect for everyone in my group, each of them has his or her specific strengths which I hope to learn from. However, when you get a bunch of capable people with different views together, things get ugly. But they don't have to. I'm not saying there'll never be conflicts, because there will. But resolving them shouldn't require us to go into battle, or to a lesser extent nasty fights and under-the-belt blows, if we're mature enough to handle conflicts as adults. Oh, who am I to talk... I'm just as guilty, even if it's on the other extreme: I try to avoid conflict as much as possible. I don't do well with confrontations. It's a weakness of mine and I have to tackle it on a daily basis. And I do try.

If only those who thrive on confrontations would back off a little, try to meet us in the middle...

Why can't everyone just get along?

cybette wrote this at 07:22 PM ... Comments (3)

Saturday, October 15, 2005

Be more aggressive? Assertive?

Was in one of the INS offices a couple of weeks ago to get fingerprinted for my green card (replacing the one I lost). Waited for more than 3 hours... looking back, if I had spoken up, maybe I'd only have to wait for an hour, or less...?

Speaking of lost stuff, they found my handbag. Of course the valuable stuff are gone, including the green card (perhaps they'll try to sell it??). I haven't "unpacked" the handbag yet... maybe not wanting to be reminded of the ordeal.

Selling yourself... I don't feel comfortable doing it. I don't even know what to say at interviews. But I need to do it, I need to ask for what I want instead of handing it to someone else and letting her take all the credit. I need to also say NO to what I DON'T want so I won't get stuck doing things I dislike. Of course we can't always have what we want, but it won't hurt to ask, right? So why I find it so hard? I'm going to take a class next month on being assertive. Let's see if that'll help....

Came across this book mentioned in the Dallas Morning News - Mozart in the Jungle. Speaks of the ugly side of the classical music scene... having attended some DSO concerts recently (and just came back from one when I read about the book), what a stark contrast to the usual image they portray. Illusion? well of course not the whole arts scene is like that, and it may apply to other areas in society and not just classical music, but the fact remains... sometimes it's not about what you really are, not about what talents or experiences you have; but it's really about knowing the right people, saying the right things, and even doing certain things.

Right? Wrong? Who is to judge? But one thing is for certain - networking is important. And a key component of networking is communication, which I suck at. I don't know how to sell myself or say the things people want to hear. So I lose out....

I used to be more confident when I was younger. Maybe it's ignorance... they say ignorance is bliss, and there's a certain ring of truth to that. When I didn't know much, I wasn't as acutely aware of things... so I guess I worried less. Not sure if that makes sense. But there's something that goes like "the more you learn, the less you know". Or rather, the more you realise that you DON'T know....

Watching the pianist's fingers flying across the Steinway keyboard at the Meyerson, wishing I could be one-tenth as good... looking at pictures taken by other people, so much better than the ones I take... at work, at play, always someone better... what am I good at? I don't even know anymore... jack of all trades but master of none. That explains why I'm involved in several projects at work instead of devoting to a single one. End up doing smaller tasks (sometimes feels like piddly shit) instead of a major task that is more visible (and can get recognition for).

And if that's not enough, my ADD is adding fuel to the fire. If I have one thing to focus on, I can try my best to make it work... but I have to juggle several things and it's like... HELLO?? stop distracting me left and right! I really can't multitask very well... my time slices are too thin to be useful for any task. But multitasking is highly regarded in the work place, usually even a requirement in a job description. So I guess I quibbled during the interview...

Plus my memory is getting from bad to worse.

I hope nobody from work will read this...

cybette wrote this at 03:24 AM ... Comments (5)

Saturday, September 24, 2005

Which SatC vixen are you?

I think I took the Sex and the City quiz a while back, but forgot which result I got. Was talking to Gloria about this the last time we met.... and just now, on a whim, I decided to try again. I did a search and found several such quizzes... one from ivillage, one from quizilla, the rest I forgot. But I ended up taking 5 of them and had different results: 2 Carrie, 2 Miranda, and 1 Charlotte. Well, I guess I have some of each of their characteristics in me (except for Samantha?)

Off topic, but my upper left eyelid has been twitching a lot these past few days. Almost constantly. Although it doesn't affect my sight, it's still quite unnerving. Is there any significance to that? Something I should look into or worry about?

cybette wrote this at 06:13 PM ... Comments (8)

Sunday, September 04, 2005

What's Your Blogging Personality?

From Blogthings: What's Your Blogging Personality?



Your Blogging Type Is Thoughtful and Considerate


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You're a well liked, though underrated, blogger.

You have a heart of gold, and are likely to blog for a cause.

You're a peaceful blogger - no drama for you!

A good listener and friend, you tend to leave thoughtful comments for others.


cybette wrote this at 08:11 PM ... Comments (3)

Saturday, September 03, 2005

Who is Remus J. Lupin

I'm supposed to be like Professor Lupin in Harry Potter. Beware! I turn into a wolf during full moon!

Find out which Harry Potter character you are here.

My results:

你就像是貪狼星的路平 Remus J. Lupin

千萬不要因為路平教授的男巫長袍極其破舊,就不喜歡他。要知道,你所扮演的這名角色,正是那個在火車廂內驅趕走了催狂魔的神秘老師。既懂魔法,又能變身。雖然路平教授每到月圓之夜,就會變身成為狼人,但是這絲毫也沒有影響到他在課堂上的親切、隨和。

沒錯!正是親切與隨和。雖然扮演路平教授的你,不一定外型特別出眾。但是因為你給人的感覺總是輕鬆、隨意、而且愉快的,所以你的人緣特別好。好人緣,當然旺桃花。雖然這並不代表你會亂來,但是久而久之,你也就成了一個充滿爭議的人物。

就像教授路平,喜歡他的,會稱他為好老師;排斥他的,則在暗地裏,直稱他為狼人。不過對你來說,這樣稱呼上的轉變,並不會影響多少你的心情。畢竟你在風塵裏打滾的機率,總比他人偏高一點。習慣了,也就自然了。於是你遇佛敬佛、遇鬼拜鬼。時間一長,有時甚至連自己也忘了到底戴過多少面具了。

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Wednesday, April 20, 2005

Thank you my friends

Thanks for all the comments, calls and even a surprise visit from Gloria and Alice. I really appreciate all the love and concern - reminding me what a lucky person I am to have such great friends. I just need some time, alone by myself, to sort things out. Probably no big deal but ... anyway...

All because of F. At work we must be T, T, T, all the time. F has been suppressed for so long it needed to lash out. But it lashed out in THIS of all ways possible... why? I don't know, maybe because F can be strong and demanding when being neglected for so long. And then there's being an I in a E environment. I thought there'd be more I's around... imaging having an anxiety attack almost everytime you have to call or meet or speak to someone. Ok not everytime but often enough to make you a nervous wreck. As for P vs. J, I'm quite ok there, because I'm just slightly P compared to being extremely I and F, so switching to J and staying there is not too big of a problem. To add to things there's a co-worker who is wonderful to everyone else but giving me the cold shoulder. A rational T wouldn't be too bothered but it'll eat away an F in no time. So there you go, an INFP being pushed to her limits in an environment that demands ExTJ-ism.

Gotta go back to work. Putting on my suit and mask now.

cybette wrote this at 09:30 AM ... Comments (5)

Sunday, April 03, 2005

Batailles quotidiennes dans ma vie

There's a difference between being depressed and suffering from depression. Both are not to be taken lightly, but it's much easier to recover from being depressed than it is from actual depression. Depression is a very scary place, it's worse than feeling down, lost, helpless, hopeless, empty, pessimistic, worthless, ... it's all that and more. It's also a very personal experience, something that you can't readily share with anyone, even those closest to you. There's a lot of guilt and shame associated with it. Not because suffering from depression is a shameful thing, but because that's how you feel when you're in it.

Anyway, on the bright side, I'm not suffering from that unfathomable darkness. That's the good news. The bad news is, I still have to deal with ADD on a daily basis. Add to that the need to put on a facade and be someone I'm not at work (sometimes even at play). Constant struggles of being an INFP. And I spoke too soon about my allergy situation. I had a mild year last year, but this year it's worse than ever: eyes itchy and hurting, nose running all over the place, throat scratchy and sore. All that pressure makes my big head feel even bigger, like it's gonna explode soon.

On the even brighter side, I'm going to PARIS for 3 days next week for work! Not sure how much time we'll have to tour around the place but I'll grab every chance I get! Too bad Bruce can't come along... but we'll definitely make a trip there on our own in future (longer trip, no work responsibilities etc.)

cybette wrote this at 04:27 PM ... Comments (4)

Sunday, October 31, 2004

The exhausted INFP

"INFPs can even masquerade in their ESTJ business suit, but not without expending considerable energy." (from typelogic.com)

My work requires me to be like an ExTJ. It's not that I can't or even dislike working this way... INFPs can be effective ESTJs if the situation calls for it, and we might actually enjoy donning the suit from time to time. But to do it for 50 to 60+ hours a week, without a break for months on end... it's no wonder I'm so tired and drained of energy. When the weekend comes around, all I want to do is get work out of my mind, but that's not always possible. Before I get a chance to fully recover from the previous week, I have to get some stuff done to prepare for the coming week, and next thing I know, Monday is here and I want to scream. But of course, what little energy I have left, I can't waste it on screaming, I have to put it back into work. And the vicious cycle continues spiraling me into oblivion. Not me physically, but the part that makes me who I am, or perhaps who I was....

cybette wrote this at 12:54 PM ... Comments (1)

Thursday, June 10, 2004

Princess Fiona, aka Mrs. Shrek!

Princess Fiona

You are Princess Fiona! You're kind and compassionate, and see people for who they really are.
What Shrek character are you? -- brought to you by Quizilla

I want to watch Shrek 2! Anyone seen it yet? Is it any good? Better than the first?

cybette wrote this at 08:08 PM ... Comments (3)

Wednesday, May 26, 2004

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Got this link from Jessie's journal:
http://free.ifate.com.tw/BSYesGoGoGo/Sel/default.asp

Pretty accurate I guess... maybe just a couple of minor points I don't quite agree with. Quite a bit of chinese for me to plough through though, haha... anyway, here's my result:

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cybette wrote this at 04:10 AM ... Comments (2)

Monday, April 26, 2004

Personality, Temperament, Character and more

"I don't know what I want." "I have to find myself." I used to think that these kinds of thoughts are immature and show a lack of self awareness. But now I know better. It's those who think they know everything that end up not making progress. Yes, sometimes it's hard to be feeling lost and confused, not knowing what to do or how to handle a situation. But through such trials, we learn about ourselves, we are forced to probe and ask difficult questions, we have to find the courage to face them, answer them, and move on with life with the new-found knowledge tucked under our belts.

It's a lifelong quest, perhaps more so for some than others, to understand ourselves and those around us. I picked up this book, Please Understand Me II: Temperament, Character, Intelligence by David Keirsey. At first I didn't enjoy reading it. Maybe it's the writing style, too logical and rational, as Keirsey is an INTP himself. I found it easier to read Renee Baron's book. I can't remember what type she is, but I think she has the Idealist NF temperament. However, as I forced myself to continue reading Keirsey's book, I did find many interesting things and gained a deeper understanding of myself and of this subject as a whole.

Don't I already know most of these characteristics about myself? I suppose at some level, perhaps subconsciously or unconsciously, I do. But when you're being told by another person, or have the words jumping out at you off a page, the kind of realization you get is more powerful. I find myself saying, oh, this is why I reacted that way in that situation, or, this might be the reason why I failed in that undertaking. With such understanding comes acceptance. To accept myself for who I am, and while there are certainly things which I can improve on, I can't change who I am fundamentally. To accept others for who they are, for the same reasons. There's no "better" or "worse", there's just "difference", but difference is ok, as long as there's acceptance.

I don't necessarily agree with everything Keirsey wrote either. But for the most part, his descriptions were fitting. You can't divide up the world into 16 types and expect to understand each type just like that. Having a "type" is just a starting point. I am an INFP, but not all INFPs are created equal. That's because every INFP also has some E, S, T and J traits, at different levels and proportions, some more than others. The MBTI and Keirsey Temperament Sorter are very useful tools for us to have a basis to work with, and from there we should explore each person as a unique individual, and not just a "type" anymore... For example, if I were to say, I'm a 28 year old Chinese female living in Dallas pursuing my doctorate, this might give you a general idea of who I am, but it barely scratches the surface.

I'm going to be peeling back the onion layers of the Idealist NFs, followed by INFP, since that's my type and thus I'm partial to it. Excerpts from Keirsey's book are in italics. I do recommend this book to anyone else interested in this subject.

What is this thing called "temperament," and what relation does it have to character and personality? There are two sides to personality, one of which is temperament and the other character. Temperament is configuration of inclinations, while character is configuration of habits. Character is disposition, temperament pre-disposition.

Put another way, our brain is a sort of computer which has temperament for its hardware and character for its software. The hardware is the physical base from which character emerges, placing an identifiable fingerprint on each individual's attitudes and actions. This underlying consistency can be observed from a very early age, long before individual experience or social context has had time or occasion to imprint the person. Thus temperament is the inborn form of human nature; character, the emergent form, which develops through the interaction of temperament and environment.

I thought I should include the above "definitions" as some (including me) might have wondered how everything ties together. I think it's well put, and explains the fact that some traits we are "born with" and others we obtain along the way through different experiences and environments. However, just as some software and hardware combinations can be incompatible, when one has a certain temperament, there are some characteristics that he or she is unlikely to develop.

In any case, Keirsey has partitioned the 16 MBTI types into 4 temperaments, based on similarities and shared traits within each temperament. They are: the SP Artisans, the SJ Guardians, the NF Idealists, and the NT Rationals.

(to be continued...)

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Friday, April 23, 2004

Calvin the INFP

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Hey, I came from Taiwan too...
(This is my all time favorite comic strip)

Yes, I'm still very much into the whole MBTI personality/temperament thing. Just borrowed 3 more books from the library on the topic. Also deduced that Bruce is of type INTP, the "Einstein" type.

INTP: Analytical and brilliant. Conceptual problem-solver and original thinker. Idiosyncratic and nonconforming. Values precision in thought and language. Notices inconsistencies, contradictions, and logical flaws in others' thinking. Independent, curious, and insightful. Private, aloof, and introspective.

(Btw, most info in this entry are from Renee Baron's book: What Type Am I? Discover Who You Really Are)

Back to INFPs. (Haha, I know, I can get self-absorbed sometimes... a characteristic of some NFs). INFPs have a strong inner life and complex feelings. They can be hard to understand because their feelings and passionate convictions are mostly on the inside, so what is most important to them is shared with only a few. (Hard to understand, hmm... I find it hard to understand myself sometimes... hehe...)

Here are a few more characteristics of INFP as mentioned by Renee Brown that ring so true for me:

  • Dislike rules, orders, schedules, and deadlines. (The rebel and procrastinator in me is calling!)

  • Dislikes interruptions, and prefer doing things themselves to be sure they are done perfectly. (Per-fec-tion-ist... did I spell that perfectly?)

  • Want to be appreciated and become well known for their contributions but rarely reveal this to others. (I almost didn't want to include this because I didn't want to reveal what I really desire.....)

  • Can become disillusioned, disheartened, and discouraged if they can't find ways to realize their life goals. (What I've been feeling recently...)

  • Often contain their feelings, e.g. at work, and can be perceived as a Thinking type. (How true... when I'm at work, or school, I appear more like the thinking type, which makes me almost like an INTP, just like Bruce and Einstein... haha...)

  • Value authenticity and depth in relationships. (Nod, nod)

  • Are loyal, devoted, and committed to family and friends; integrity in close relationships is among their most cherished values. (Nod, nod, nod)

  • Appreciate those people who take the time to understand their dreams, goals, and aspirations. (Please understand me! <- hey, that also happens to be the title of another book I borrowed on this subject....)

  • Are deeply caring but can appear indifferent and antisocial. (I'm a loner who yet feels a strong desire to connect with others)

  • Like time alone for their many interests, but also enjoy spending time with those close to them by going to museums, films, and performances. (Yup, I enjoy those things... oh, and roller coaster rides too!!! Wheeee!)

  • Are highly reflective, especially in contemplating the mysteries and meaning of life. (Not just my own life, life on earth, but also life beyond earth.....)

  • Here are some "suggestions for INFPs" that I think I need to review from time to time.... hope some of you INFPs out there will find this helpful too:
  • Avoid spending too much time considering possibilities and options instead of acting on them.

  • Find a way to give external expression to your ideals. Share your values, visions, and emotions with those close to you.

  • Take a risk by putting yourself and your work out in the world.

  • Avoid focusing on other people's needs at the expense of your own. This is important in order to conserve your energy and maintain your focus.

  • Guard against sympathizing with another's hurt beyond what the person is actually experiencing!

  • Learn to set boundaries, to say no, and to offer honest criticism when needed.

  • Avoid procrastinating and try to stick to deadlines. Make lists of your priorities to remind you of what's most important.

  • Follow through with your commitments. Beware of perfectionism which can sometimes delay you from completing tasks.

  • Ask others for help instead of always relying on your own resources.

  • When you have a problem, ask a friend to just listen to you and not give advice while you talk it through.

  • Find people you trust to help you identify and let go of your unrealistic expectations of yourself and others.

  • Offer advice and consolation to others. You have special gifts in this area but often are reluctant to express yourself.

  • Honor your values and make choices based on them even if it seems like the rest of the world does not understand them.

  • Appreciate your strengths of idealism, empathy, creativity, sensitivity, self-reflection, compassion, originality, adaptability, and curiosity.
  • cybette wrote this at 05:23 AM ... Comments (1)

    Sunday, March 14, 2004

    Last bit about MBTI... for now.

    Whew, finally finished that previous entry (sorry Gloria, for taking so long!). The INFP prayer: God, help me to finish everything I sta...

    Anyway, when I was wrapping up the last part on INFP's, I came across this website: Similar Minds. It has MBTI and other tests, including Enneagram, which I've heard about from time to time but never had a chance to take. So I did the MB-Jung+Enneagram combined test to see what it came up with. Here are my results:

    Introverted (I) 81.25% Extroverted (E) 18.75%
    Intuitive (N) 75.86% Sensing (S) 24.14%
    Feeling (F) 77.42% Thinking (T) 22.58%
    Perceiving (P) 68.75% Judging (J) 31.25%

    Your conscious personality is Type 5w4
    (artistic intellectuals, "absent minded professor" types...)

    Your unconscious personality is Type 4w3
    (highly introverted and indecisive, often hide strong feelings...)

    Let's see, MBTI type is INFP, no big surprise there. What's this Enneagram types 5w4 and 4w3? Hmm, time to do more research... (maybe next week. Feeling really sick these past few days with fever and all.)

    Another interesting site I came across is PTypes, that actually type personalities by "disorders". I haven't had a chance to explore the site thoroughly, but I was intrigued by the Correspondence of five personality typologies. The author did mention that the correspondences are more speculative rather than empirical. However it linked INFP to the astrological sign Leo and Enneagram type 4w3. I'm a Leo and my "unconscious" type is 4w3 (whatever that means, I haven't figured out). So at least for me it's pretty much right on the money.

    From Type Statistics on Lifexplore, it shows that while being only 1% of the general population, INFP's make up a much higher percentage in people interested in personality type. Probably because we usually feel like the odd one out and want to find out what it is that makes us different. I also read somewhere that INFP's make up the largest group of webloggers compared to other types. Hmm, we like to keep to ourselves and we're supposedly good writers... not surprising. However, the stats also show that INFP's make the least money and get married least frequently. Well, I am married and I hope to be making LOTS OF MONEY!! Although it's likely that I'll be donating what I can to charity...

    "The search for a soulmate is a preoccupation for many INFPs, who must balance their need for privacy and peace with their yearning for human connection. If there seems to be an air of sadness in the INFP's spirit, blame it on this type's yearning for the perfect in all things."

    cybette wrote this at 02:44 AM ... Comments (1)

    Saturday, March 13, 2004

    INFP = ADD = Depression?

    I am pretty much a confirmed INFP. Some tests will tell you how much inclination you have for each consideration (Extraversion vs. Introversion and so on), e.g. very clearly intuitive, only slightly judging etc. I looked up a couple of my past results and added a recent one I took and came up with this:

    Introversion: extremely, extremely, extremely (vs. Extraversion)
    iNtuition: moderately, extremely, extremely (vs. Sensing)
    Feeling: moderately, extremely, moderately (vs. Thinking)
    Perceiving: slightly, slightly, slightly (vs. Judging)

    So I'm a confirmed [I], very much an [N], pretty much the [F] with a touch of [P]. Also it shows that not all INFP's are created equal. I see a lot of INFP/ENFP/xNFP's online but I wonder how many are like me, i.e. very very very [I].

    INFP's are usually described as quiet, reserved, deeply passionate, sensitive, very loving and dedicated to those close to them, creative, imaginative, and hold beliefs and values deeply (from personalitytype.com). I like this mnemonic that sums up an INFP: "I Never Find Perfection" (from haleonline.com). Here are some more detailed descriptions of INFP's:

    Portrait of an INFP from The Personality Page
    INFP Profile from Type Logic
    Portrait of the Healer (iNFp) from Keirsey
    INFP the Dreamer from Lifexplore
    You're an INFP from Hale Online
    "Healer" from Career Types

    From keirsey.com, it mentions that Healers (INFP's) are found in only 1 percent of the general population, although, at times, their idealism leaves them feeling even more isolated from the rest of humanity. This is leading to my main point for this entry: the association between the INFP type and characteristics like loneliness, depression as well as ADD/ADHD.

    In the general population, here's the approximate distribution of the different personality types:

    • ESxx: around 12-13% each, with ESTJ possibly up to 18%, making up more than half of the population
    • ENxx: around 5% each, making up about a fifth of the population
    • ISxx: around 6% each, making up about a quarter of the population
    • INxx: around 1% each, making up less than 5 percent of the population

    Before I go on, I should explain a little about ADD. This is taken from Born to Explore - What is ADD? Attention Deficit Disorder, or ADD/ADHD, is a psychological term applied to anyone who meets the DSM IV diagnostic criteria for impulsivity, hyperactivity and/or inattention. The diagnostic criteria are subjective and include behavior which might be caused by a wide variety of factors, ranging from brain defects to allergies to giftedness. ADD is really more of a description rather than a specific disease. However, there is a tendancy for people to over-simplify ADD and view it as a singular defect or disease. Not true!

    There are two major types of ADD at this time (this aspect of ADD keeps evolving): ADD with hyperactivity (the traditional type of ADD, also known as ADHD) and ADD without hyperactivity ("inattentive" type).

    One common misconception about ADD is that many people assume ADDers cannot pay attention. This is completely false. In fact, ADDers are known to "hyperfocus" on anything which captures their attention, to the point where it is difficult to get their attention. It is true, however, that a higher degree of interest is necessary before the ADDer can pay attention.

    The MBTI types that are most likely to be diagnosed ADD are: INFP, ENFP, ENTP, and INTP. You might notice that they are all of the type xNxP. From ADD and Personality Type, Rachael Hawkins wrote that there is increasing evidence to suggest that NP personality types are overrepresented in the ADD/ADHD population. Most of life is SJ; great if you are SJ, OK if you are SP or NJ, really crap if you are NP. Some characteristics of NP's may include: procrastination, divergent thinking, many interests, scatter-brained, get bored easily with something that doesn't interest them, extremely focused with something that does interest them, daydream a lot... etc. (hmm, seem to describe me perfectly). Often, these are also the descriptions of ADD behaviour.

    When it comes to Depression, I found that INFP is the most likely of all the types to report suicidal thoughts in college (MBTI Manual, 1998) as well as having the highest level of depression of the 16 types (Shelton, MBTI Applications, 1996). From McMan's Depression and Bipolar Web, he conducted an informal poll and posted the findings here: Taking it Personally. In it he found that more than 80% of the respondents are introverts, when they only account for less than 30% of the general population. Idealists (NF's) are also over-represented, at around 40% (but only comprise 8% of general population).

    McMan mentioned a study by David Janowsky MD of the University of North Carolina in 2002, where he found a preponderance of introverts and feelers among a depressed population (74 percent introverts and 84 percent feelers).

    So, what have we learnt?
    • IN's are a lonely bunch
    • NP's are most likely to be diagnosed ADD
    • I's, NF's and F's are predominant among the depressed

    Hey, who has all of the above? INFP! Of course, this doesn't mean that all INFP's end up being depressed ADDers, or that all those diagnosed with ADD and depression will be of type INFP. Just that there's a strong correlation between the type and the respective "disorders". Some people are biologically depressed due to chemical imbalance. Some type of ADD are caused by brain defects. But studies show that less than 10% of depression is biologically caused. So what causes depression? Stress (among other factors). Feeling the need to "fit in" a world dominated by ESTJ/SJ's, or at least a world where ESTJ type is encouraged (many U.S. presidents are ESTJ's, including George W. Bush). Also, a lot of gifted and creative kids are mis-diagnosed with ADD, simply because they are misunderstood.

    I think we need more understanding all around. To understand ourselves better, and to understand each other better. For the "majority" to understand that the "minority" are not just "trying to be different", they are different. And for those who are different to understand that it's OK to be different. If we can try to understand how the various personality types function, the different ways they view the world, the different things that make them tick, we can get along much better and have more meaningful relationships.

    To end this on a lighter note, here's a list of MBTI Types Prayers, pretty funny and revealing!

    • INFP: God, help me to finish everything I sta
    • ENFP: God, help me to keep my mind on one th -Look a bird- ing at a time.
    • ENTP: Lord help me follow established procedures today. On second thought, I'll settle for a few minutes
    • INTP: Lord help me be less independent, but let me do it my way.
    • ESFP: God help me to take things more seriously, especially parties and dancing.
    • ISTP: God help me to consider people's feelings, even if most of them ARE hypersensitive.
    • ESTP: God help me to take responsibility for my own actions, even though they're usually NOT my fault.
    • ISFP: Lord, help me to stand up for my rights (if you don't mind my asking).
    • ENTJ: Lord, help me slow downandnotrushthroughwhatIdo
    • INFJ: Lord help me not be a perfectionist. (did I spell that correctly?)
    • ENFJ: God help me to do only what I can and trust you for the rest. Do you mind putting that in writing?
    • INTJ: Lord keep me open to others' ideas, WRONG though they may be
    • ESTJ: God, help me to not try to RUN everything. But, if You need some help, just ask
    • ESFJ: God give me patience, and I mean right NOW
    • ISFJ: Lord, help me to be more laid back and help me to do it EXACTLY right.
    • ISTJ: Lord help me to relax about insignificant details beginning tomorrow at 11:41.23 a.m. EST.

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    cybette wrote this at 04:50 PM ... Comments (242)

    Friday, March 12, 2004

    More about MBTI

    (First portion adapted from http://www.cpp.com/products/mbti/)

    The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is the most widely used personality inventory in the world. It was created by Isabel Briggs Myers and her mother Katharine C. Briggs based on Carl Jung's psychological types. The MBTI "instrument" (not really a "test", since there's no right or wrong answers) provides an accurate picture of a person's personality type by determining one's preferences on four dichotomies:

    Extraversion vs. Introversion: describes where people prefer to focus their attention and get their energy - from the outer world of people and activity or their inner world of ideas and experiences

    Sensing vs. iNtuition: describes how people prefer to take in information - focused on what is real and actual or on patterns and meanings in data

    Thinking vs. Feeling: describes how people prefer to make decisions - based on logical analysis or guided by concern for their impact on others

    Judging vs. Perceiving: describes how people prefer to deal with the outer world - in a planned orderly way, or in a flexible spontaneous way

    Combinations of these preferences result in 16 personality types. However, there can actually be more. Some people, for example, may not have a strong inclination towards being either Thinking or Feeling, so they might be something like IS*J. This may be the reason some people get different results each time. Another reason is of course that a lot of these type inventories online are only approximations of the real thing, thus may not have the accuracy of the genuine MBTI instrument.

    Nevertheless, if you cannot take the official MBTI from a qualified practitioner, here are some online versions that you can try to have a feel of things. If you get very similar results on all your tries (like me, I had the same result every single time, including the official one), there's a good chance that's your type.

    Humanmetrics: Jung Typology Test
    Keirsey Temperament Sorter II
    DDLI (a downloadable program)
    Tickle.com: Career Personality Test
    Similar Minds (Myers-Briggs and other tools)
    More can be found here

    But, as Carl Jung has said, "It is not the purpose of a psychological typology to classify human beings into categories -- this in itself would be pretty pointless." Thus knowing what type you are is not an end in itself, but rather a powerful tool to help you understand yourself as well as people around you better, appreciate the differences between people, and possibly help us to work and live together more harmoniously and tap more into our inner potentials. There are lots of information online about the personality types, as well as how they can influence career choices and relationships etc. Anyway, I've put together a list here for easy reference:

    Keirsey Temperament and Character
    The DDLI Page
    The Personality Page
    Type Logic
    Lifexplore
    Personality Pathways
    Human Metrics
    Personality Type
    Bloginality: Weblogger Personality
    Socionics: The New Psychology
    Career Types
    PTypes (another kind of personality types)

    cybette wrote this at 04:04 AM ... Comments (1)

    Friday, March 05, 2004

    Miss Personality

    I think some of the results from the tests I took were quite accurate. I'm pretty much a loner aside from hanging out with just a few close friends. I don't share my emotions easily unless I know that person really well. (Maybe that explains the "mysterious" me, since I don't look mysterious by any means.) However, all three results indicate that I am creative, but I do not think of myself as such. I'm always in awe of other people's works (writing, art, design, music....) and kept wishing "if only I could be half as good as them"... One thing though, I didn't like the nose ring on that Artistic chick. It's a great picture (aren't they all though? I especially like the "night element" one since blue is one of my favorite colors) but spoilt by that nose ring. Even an eyebrow ring would be fine. Sigh, perfectly flawed picture...

    Anyway, I also take a lot of quizzes on tickle.com (formerly emode.com). I must have taken more than 100 of them by now, over a span of around 3 years. Good thing about tickle.com is that all your results are stored and you can also compare results with friends who have taken the same tests. Plus, many tests there are certified by people with PHD's (permanent head damage... hmmm... should we be trusting them with anything in the first place?) Anyway, drop me a note if you'd like to share results or something.

    In my opinion the best is still the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator, based on Carl Jung's notions of psychological types. It can provide very accurate results if properly administered by a certified MBTI practitioner. The full version has a couple hundred questions and takes 2-3 hours to complete. A shorter version of around 70 questions is available at the UTD career center (helping to make career choices). There are also some online versions that try to mimic the real thing, but they may or may not be accurate. However the Keirsey Temperament Sorter is well established and proven. I've taken all the official and non-official versions I have come across (including the full version) and each time my result is INFP. Other people I know have had different results with different tests, or even on different attempts of the same test! I recently read somewhere that many people with ADD are INFP's, and that most schools reinforce the "ESTJ" way of learning and thinking. Now, ESTJ is the exact opposite of INFP. No wonder I feel like such an outcast sometimes... and feel like I need to put on my ESTJ exterior to face the world.

    So anyway, I've included the INFP profile description at the end of this entry (click on "continue reading...") in case anyone, after reading my long ramblings, would actually still want further reading material. You can google "MBTI" and easily find the profiles of the other 15 types. Or go to Keirsey and take the sorter and find out for yourself what type you are! Have fun ~~~

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    The following is taken from personalitypage.com

    Portrait of an INFP - Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving
    (Introverted Feeling with Extraverted Intuition)

    "The Idealist"

    As an INFP, your primary mode of living is focused internally, where you deal with things according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value system. Your secondary mode is external, where you take things in primarily via your intuition.

    INFPs, more than other iNtuitive Feeling types, are focused on making the world a better place for people. Their primary goal is to find out their meaning in life. What is their purpose? How can they best serve humanity in their lives? They are idealists and perfectionists, who drive themselves hard in their quest for achieving the goals they have identified for themselves

    INFPs are highly intuitive about people. They rely heavily on their intuitions to guide them, and use their discoveries to constantly search for value in life. They are on a continuous mission to find the truth and meaning underlying things. Every encounter and every piece of knowledge gained gets sifted through the INFP's value system, and is evaluated to see if it has any potential to help the INFP define or refine their own path in life. The goal at the end of the path is always the same - the INFP is driven to help people and make the world a better place.

    Generally thoughtful and considerate, INFPs are good listeners and put people at ease. Although they may be reserved in expressing emotion, they have a very deep well of caring and are genuinely interested in understanding people. This sincerity is sensed by others, making the INFP a valued friend and confidante. An INFP can be quite warm with people he or she knows well.

    INFPs do not like conflict, and go to great lengths to avoid it. If they must face it, they will always approach it from the perspective of their feelings. In conflict situations, INFPs place little importance on who is right and who is wrong. They focus on the way that the conflict makes them feel, and indeed don't really care whether or not they're right. They don't want to feel badly. This trait sometimes makes them appear irrational and illogical in conflict situations. On the other hand, INFPs make very good mediators, and are typically good at solving other people's conflicts, because they intuitively understand people's perspectives and feelings, and genuinely want to help them.

    INFPs are flexible and laid-back, until one of their values is violated. In the face of their value system being threatened, INFPs can become aggressive defenders, fighting passionately for their cause. When an INFP has adopted a project or job which they're interested in, it usually becomes a "cause" for them. Although they are not detail-oriented individuals, they will cover every possible detail with determination and vigor when working for their "cause".

    When it comes to the mundane details of life maintenance, INFPs are typically completely unaware of such things. They might go for long periods without noticing a stain on the carpet, but carefully and meticulously brush a speck of dust off of their project booklet.

    INFPs do not like to deal with hard facts and logic. Their focus on their feelings and the Human Condition makes it difficult for them to deal with impersonal judgment. They don't understand or believe in the validity of impersonal judgment, which makes them naturally rather ineffective at using it. Most INFPs will avoid impersonal analysis, although some have developed this ability and are able to be quite logical. Under stress, it's not uncommon for INFPs to misuse hard logic in the heat of anger, throwing out fact after (often inaccurate) fact in an emotional outburst.

    INFPs have very high standards and are perfectionists. Consequently, they are usually hard on themselves, and don't give themselves enough credit. INFPs may have problems working on a project in a group, because their standards are likely to be higher than other members' of the group. In group situations, they may have a "control" problem. The INFP needs to work on balancing their high ideals with the requirements of every day living. Without resolving this conflict, they will never be happy with themselves, and they may become confused and paralyzed about what to do with their lives.

    INFPs are usually talented writers. They may be awkward and uncomfortable with expressing themselves verbally, but have a wonderful ability to define and express what they're feeling on paper. INFPs also appear frequently in social service professions, such as counseling or teaching. They are at their best in situations where they're working towards the public good, and in which they don't need to use hard logic.

    INFPs who function in their well-developed sides can accomplish great and wonderful things, which they will rarely give themselves credit for. Some of the great, humanistic catalysts in the world have been INFPs.

    cybette wrote this at 02:52 AM ... Comments (5)

    Thursday, March 04, 2004

    More personality tests

    Night Took a few more quizzes from Quizilla.com! Love the graphics for the "results" of these tests...



    Your Element is Night. You're a loner who is very creative but never show your work to anyone. You may smile a little but sadness or loneliness surround you and others can feel it when they're near you. You have a dark or unusual beauty that makes you mysterious and you probably have a lot of secrets that you've never told anyone. Your beauty is intriguing and unorthodox but the real thing that makes you special is your eyes. Something in them makes them like "Diamonds in the Rough."

    What's Your Element?
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    You are Form 1, Goddess: The Creator. "And The Goddess planted the acorn of life. She cried a single tear and shed a single drop of blood upon the earth where she buried it. From her blood and tear, the acorn grew into the world."

    Goddess

    Some examples of the Goddess Form are Gaia (Greek), Jehova (Christian), and Brahma (Indian). The Goddess is associated with the concept of creation, the number 1, and the element of earth. Her sign is the dawn sun.

    As a member of Form 1, you are a charismatic individual and people are drawn to you. Although sometimes you may seem emotionally distant, you are deeply in tune with other people's feelings and have tremendous empathy. Sometimes you have a tendency to neglect your own self. Goddesses are the best friends to have because they're always willing to help.

    Which Mythological Form Are You?
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    You are naturally born with a gift, whether it be poetry, writing or song. You love beauty and creativity, and are usually highly intelligent. Others view you as mysterious and dreamy, yet also bold since you hold firm in your beliefs.
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    cybette wrote this at 04:44 AM ... Comments (3)

    Wednesday, March 03, 2004

    Heart of Crystal

    (First, a note to Megan, it's ok if you can't read the Chinese words. It's a direct translation from the English stuff, so you don't miss anything!)

    Oooh I love quizzes. Though not quite like the full-fledged MBTI with hundreds of questions and take hours to complete, these short quizzes can offer a glimpse of who you are and what your inclinations are (provided they are accurately designed). Isn't that what we are constantly trying to do, finding the answer to the ever-elusive question of "who am I?" (ahem, Gloria). So anyway, I saw this quiz from Gloria's Xanga (hehe, who else?) and took it. Here's my result:

    Heart of Crystal
    What is Your Heart REALLY Made of?
    -- brought to you by Quizilla

    Hmm, my crystal heart is not as valuable as G's golden heart. Guess I better keep it since I won't make much money trying to sell it! Do leave me a comment and let me know your results if you've taken the quiz. Or let me know of other fun quizzes to take!

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    cybette wrote this at 11:12 AM ... Comments (2)